Virtualiy and Reality: - life before and after marriage

I came across some blogs and heard many people commenting about life before and after marriage. Many pairs often feel that life is not same and it may sometimes feel like extreme ends.

I cannot authentically give a proof to argue with those people as every individual will have different attitudes at different point in life, matter is how we take it, how both can make each other feel.

Before marriage, both will find time for each other- talk through phone without sleep, keep on texting irrespective of space, chat and video chat, go together for shoppings, outings, park, beach and there will be no place in your place which you both might not have visited together. Both will remember the birth dates and buy gifts, sometimes give surprise parties and will be having fun at all time possible.

But once you are married unnecessary seriousness and responsibilities will pop up, I am not saying males or females are wrong. Couples need to be serious when they think about future and their family. But that does not mean you should not spend time with your partner or go for outings together. Even if one person forgets in the busy schedule why don’t you have a common sense to make and call. If you have a habit to forget some important events mark it as an alert in your smart phones. Who is not exposed to technologies now and remembering some events is not a tedious task.

If you have taught your partner by giving gifts and remembering events before marriage, he/she will expect you to do the same after marriage also. Before social commitment your aim was to be together and share happiness but once everything is done you forget to hold each other, forget to share your shoulders.

Some tips to make each other happy

Once in a week go for outings

In between working hours give a text “I love you”( if possible make 1minute call)

Dine together

Spend time in kitchen

Have evening / morning walk

Play games/watch movies

Have celebrations at home / out with relatives/friends

Talk openly.

Listen to your partner.

Help each other to keep the house clean

When your partner is sad give a hug, make a feel that he/she is not alone. Whichever religion you belong, marriage knot is made by taking some vows. Rather than a ritual tone, make those promises psychological  to protect your partner. Sometimes silence may be needed, arguments can worsen the situation. Males may be not free to share their feelings so let them free, they will be back to normal situation if you let them go. But in case of females you need to be with them and let them share the feelings.

Situations may differ, but your soul-mate is made for you with lots of positive and negative. Try to see both sides and help each other to nourish the positive seeds instead of watering the negatives and spoiling your own happiness.